NEWS!

Happy 4th of July everyone! I hope everyone is having an awesome day! :) I haven't updated my blog in a long time, and I have some news to share so I thought I would go ahead and let everyone know. Before I begin please if you have any hurtful or judgmental things to say, please don't bother to say anything at all.

The news is that Jeremiah and I are getting a divorce. This has been in the works for awhile, not a rash decision. I am not going to go into why we are because it's between us. Not trying to be a stick in the mud here, but it's just the way it is. Jeremiah and I got married wayyyyyy too early and too fast. We have had our ups and downs over the years we have been married. And we just realize that we made a mistake and we are moving on with our lives.

We are not mad at each other, just ready to start the next chapter in our lives. I know some of you may not agree with this, but this is my life and I have to do what I have to do. Walk in my shoes for awhile and you will understand why. So please keep any hurtful comments to yourself.

Right now we are separated and I'm working on getting my own place. I have a great job and am happy there. This is not a rash decision, it's been in the works for awhile. I've just been trying to figure out what I'm going to do. What has kept me here is being scared of being on my own, but I'm strong and I know I can do it. I have many wonderful people in my life who support me and I know I will be just fine.

I'm going to go for now, but again I wish everyone a safe and happy 4th of July!
Paige

I just want to sleep...

I can't sleep, I toss and turn trying to drift away into nothingness, memories of you keep running through my mind. Of what was and what will never be. Times used to be so simple, nothing like it is today. What I wouldn't give to go back and cherish those fleeting moments of precious time. When I used to feel loved and not used. When I felt accepted and not judged. When I knew all of life's problems would be solved by simple faith. Now all I do is worry, wonder who or what I will lose next. Life is not that simple anymore, reality is a cruel monster trying to eat at my soul.

Taken from a song but speaks measures..."I would die to know you still loved me". Don't you see me here, begging for your love and acceptance? Don't you see I'm not the horrible monster you seem to think I am? I love you more than I could ever express, more than any words could ever describe. I try to earn your love by being what you want me to be. Or at least making you see what you want to see. But I know that isn't true love and never will be. Why can't you just accept me for who I am? Why can't you just love me for me?

I trusted you from the very beginning. I gave you all of me leaving nothing hidden. I thought love would always last forever. But now reality raises it's ugly head and I see you for who you really are. Why do you lie to me? Why do you hide things from me? Why don't you love me like you used to? I still love you and I think always will, but you hurt me more than you will ever know. Every time you hurt me, a little part of me dies. But you don't see it or won't understand it. How can you not see that it's tearing me apart? I gave you everything and now you give me lies and deceit. I no longer trust you, am always wondering what I will find next. Why are you breaking my heart? Do you not even care?

Why do I always feel at a cross road in my life? Can't I find the peaceful content state of mind that I am desperately searching for? Why do I always feel I have to make a painful choice that no one will win in the end? This is not living, just merely surviving. But I'm paralyzed with fear. I'm too scared of the unknown, so afraid of making the wrong choice. So I survive here day after day wondering when the time will come that I will be strong enough to make the right choice, whatever that may be.

I'm just so tired and mentally exhausted, all I want is to fall asleep and not have to think. Sleep is my only relief, a time where I feel nothing. But sleep is far from me tonight, and I am left only with my wandering mind. Always thinking, always worrying, always weighing me down. I just want to sleep....

My Sweet Kitty, Midnight!

My precious baby girl, Midnight



Midnight and Izzie laying/sitting on top of the computer


Midnight

Midnight

Izzie laying in Midnight's bed after she died.

Burying Midnight with her favorite toy which was the ring off a milk jug.

My wonderful boss helping me do one of the hardest things ever. Thank you, Vicki Baker!

Hi everyone! It's been awhile since I've blogged about anything going on in my life. I think about it sometimes, but usually I can't really think of anything to talk about. Seems like I just stay at home or go to work, and I didn't think anyone would want to hear about those things. But tonight I come to you with a heavy heart. My precious little kitty, Midnight died early Sunday morning (May 22nd). When I got home from work on Thursday (May 19th) all my kitties were fine, but after my husband, Jeremiah got home from work he came and woke me up saying that something was wrong with Midnight. He said she was favoring one of her legs. I got up to check on her, and I what saw was so heartbreaking. Her two back legs were dragging behind her when she walked. She couldn't use her legs anymore, and I went into instant hysteria. I immediately started checking online for a vet we could take her to. Everything was closed since this happened in the middle of the night. Finally we found a vet on call and he told us to take her to the pet emergency hospital in Tallahassee. So we got dressed, got Midnight wrapped up in my fuzzy robe and went to Tallahassee. I had no clue what was wrong with her and was scared to death. I cried on and off the whole ride there. We finally arrived after what seemed like hours getting there. The vet said she could have hurt her back from falling or something, but then she checked Midnight's pulse behind her legs and the pulse was very faint. The vet said if it was a back injury the pulse/blood flow wouldn't be affected. She said that Midnight had a blood clot and would need to get on some treatments for it. She would need a blood thinner, antibiotic and pain meds. She asked if we would like to start the treatments there and then resume them closer to where we live. I immediately agreed since I just wanted my baby be well and normal again. They then told us the first treatment would be over $500.00 and there was no way we could afford it. The vet told us we could get her a shot for the pain and then take her to a vet closer to where we live first thing in the morning. They gave Midnight the shot which was $166.00 which I think is totally ridiculously insane. We went home and I got an hour of sleep before I had to be at work. Since I had to work Jeremiah took Midnight to the vet and they said she needed to get half of a baby aspirin daily and pain meds twice a day. They told us if she is not better by Monday to bring her back. I was immediately wary because I knew if she didn't get some kind of antibiotic her back legs would get infected since the blood could not flow there. I worked all day Friday and Saturday. She seemed to be about the same come Saturday evening when I got home from work. I was so worried she would die and I called the vet up again but he wouldn't see her. He just said since we use a vet in another county that I would have to take her to Tallahassee. On Saturday night I put her in the cat bed I bought for her and placed it next to my bed so I could keep a close eye on her. Jeremiah checked on her in the middle of the night and she was still the same. She couldn't walk anymore, she just dragged around very slowly. And she wouldn't eat or drink and I kept giving her water with a syringe since she wouldn't drink on her own. She threw up food once so I thought she had eaten something when I wasn't looking since we kept the food and water close to her at all times. Her voice got weak, her strong meow was now a little squeak. It was so hard seeing her so sick and I was so helpless. I knew if we had had the money to get her the treatments she needed she wouldn't have died. When we got up Sunday morning I immediately went to check on her. I said, "how are you Midnight?" and she didn't move. She usually always lifts her head when she hears me say her name. I snapped my fingers near her ears in case she didn't hear me and she still didn't move. I screamed for Jeremiah to come and he jumped out of bed and came to check on her. He lifted her out of her bed and she was already stiff. He said she's gone and my heart just broke in pieces. I started to sob and I held her in my arms and rocked her little body. I tried so hard to make her wake up or come back to me but she never would. She just laid there with her big bright eyes staring off into nothingness. I buried her that day at my boss' house since she is in a more permanent living place than I am. I am planning on moving someday and didn't want to leave her behind. It's been so hard living without Midnight. She had such a big personality and her presence is missed. I miss her meowing at me all the time, when she wanted to be petted, when she wanted food, her trying to steal food off my plate, her sitting in front of me staring at me the whole time I ate hoping I would give her a bite. Her laying in my lap in the evenings when I would watch TV or read a book, her laying on top of the computer trying to catch the cursor on the screen, or blending in with our black computer desk while she slept and then would scare me when she would move and I didn't know she was there. Her always curious about the outside world and me always telling her "No, Midnight. Get back from the door" when I would come inside. I just miss all the little things about her. I miss her being here. I miss her presence. My kitties are my kids and it's killing me knowing Midnight is forever gone. I was taught to believe that animals can't go to Heaven, but I can't accept that. I have to believe she is in Heaven with my mama. My mama loved cats and I just picture my mom having Midnight curled up in her lap. I know my mama will be taking care of Midnight for me until I get there. Now I am focused on my other two kitties, they have been so sad losing Midnight. After I got home from burying Midnight I found Izzie laying in the cat bed she died in and I know he was missing her. Fluffy hasn't gone outside since Midnight got sick and I know it's because of Midnight. I just miss her so much and cry all the time because she is gone. Some people may think it's silly to feel this much for a cat, but I do and I am not going to apologize to anyone about it. It's me and you can either take me or leave. Frankly I just don't care. I just want my babies and my husband and my family and everyone I love to all be safe, and I don't want to lose anyone else. It's just too painful. Well, it's already late and I need to go to bed because I work tomorrow. I hope everyone is doing well and in better spirits than I am in these days. Good bye until next time...

Paige

Where Are You?

My heart is searching for the right words to say, the words that will make you understand how I feel. Frustration builds up that I can't even think straight. You have me so confused and you always leave me searching for answers. You leave me in the dark to find my own way even though you promised you would always be there. Do you receive joy from my suffering? Are you laughing as you carelessly toy around with my broken heart?

I was always taught to love you with all my heart. I was taught you are full of love and compassion. I was taught you would never put more on us than we can bear. But now I question everything I was taught to believe. I can't bear the pain anymore, I'm sick of it. If you truly loved me, you would not let so many horrible things happen.

I don't feel you here anymore, I haven't felt you in a very long time. I've tried to trust in you. Every single day I try to push away the horrible pain and try to trust that you know what you are doing. Every day I try to blindly follow you through this horrible life. Every day I try to have faith, faith that everything is going to be okay one day. But that day never comes, my answers are never answered, and you leave me alone in this cruel, dark world.

I have cried out to you more times than I could ever count. I've been on my face begging you for help. I tell others that you are the only thing getting me through life. But I'm barely getting by. Surviving just enough to feel this god awful pain. Where are you when I truly need you?

I don't understand so many things. You have all the control. You can make things happen or not make things happen. You have the power to take away some of the bad from this life, yet you choose not to. You choose to see us suffer. You choose to let things happen that breaks us down. People say you love your children, but I don't understand how you could love us and let us constantly suffer. I just don't understand....

Thoughts For You

As you live your perfect life, do you think of me? Do I ever cross your mind. Because you cross
my mind a thousand times a day. Do you remember the life you once had? Do you remember your family whom you always loved. Or is life too glorious to remember your imperfect life on
earth. Do you remember me? Do you even know who I am? These questions always haunting my mind, giving me no relief.




I want to think you still remember. I want to believe you still love me. Sometimes I dream of
you looking down at me, cheering for me and loving me. I like to imagine you somehow helping
guide me through life. Can you see me living my life without you? Can you see the gaping hole
in my life that you once filled?




I see signs of you everywhere. Or is it just my mind trying to console my heart so i can get
through the day? And I try to will you here although it never works, and I'm left with
nothing except this meaningless life. I want to be where you are. I want you to meet me at
Heaven's gates, introducing me to all the splendors that await. I want you to walk with me.
I want to catch you up on all that has happened. I want to tell you to your face that I love
you. Looking up to the endless sky just isn't the same.




I have to believe you still know me. I have to believe you still love me. I have to believe
you are thinking of me. My heart just can't bear the pain of thinking you might not.
People say life is short, but for me it's an endless eternity stretching on, not allowing
me to see you again. I just want to be where you are.




I know these words are not perfect and kind of jumbled up, but it's how I feel. It's how I
feel every single day of my endless life. Sometimes the pain is so bad, I can literally feel
my heart tearing in two. You have no idea how much I need you. You have no idea how much I
miss you. You were my rock, my best friend, my mama. And now that you are gone, life is so
bleak and dark.




I never knew what cherishing each moment was until you were gone. I wish I had it all back
again. Since you've been gone, it's just not been the same. You kept the family together. Now
I feel like I belong to no one. So many "I love yous" but they're just words. I want my
family back. I want you back. But my mind reminds me once again that it's all gone, it's
never going to be the same. Not a life worth living.